Today is one of those days where I feel like a terrible mother. We all have them. I won’t go into details but let’s just say that my 2 year old and I are not the best of friends at the moment, and I don’t know what to do about it.
Yes, I have friends I can talk to.
Yes, I have an amazing partner who steps in when I feel like I can’t anymore.
But all of those people have jobs to do, the kind that pay the bills.
What I really need is someone who will come when I call. Someone objective who will validate my feelings but also give me some help in finding my feet again. Someone who can take the pressure off when I need it so that I can just catch my breath, re-centre and come back with an open heart and not a heavy weight.
That person is my postpartum doula. 27 months after my son was born, and she still helps me when I need her. Life raising children doesn’t magically stop changing at some point, it is a continual state of adjustment, and sometimes we struggle to keep up. Do I need her as much as I did in the beginning? Definitely not. But to know I can reach out and have her by my side listening to my rants (and my victories) is priceless. To know she will come in and help me bring calm when all I want to do is join the chaos of a 2 year old tantrum is worth every cent. Doula support is for more than just birth and the first few weeks of having a newborn. Doula support is, and should be for life.
I’m here to tell you that life with children is not all picture perfect Instagram posts.
And that’s ok.
It’s ok to reach out for help.
It’s ok to pay someone to be the sidekick you need when your superhero self is trapped.
Get the support you need.
Hire a doula.
Because you deserve it.
If you live in Johannesburg, or Pretoria or anywhere in Gauteng, and need a bit of help getting through the day, Contact Life Journey Doulas. Not only will we help you get through it, we'll help you capture the amazing moments for you to post when you feel like your old self again